So sad that the time to say goodbye in this reality came all too soon . Death called Mr Bimbi from us and was relentless in pursuit.
Heart felt tears flowed as we said goodbye to this gentle soul as he left his body. And what is left is an emptiness in my world that was full before with love and joy and an exuberant life force . The laughter and smile as we set out on a walk in the park or when a duck treat was on offer.
Blessed I was to have this special being in my world for 14 earth years and during that time he was my loyal forever friend who was always by my side and ready to follow my lead.
I hope that he found my beautiful Dad waiting for him. He too was visited by Death this very year.
Walking forward new adventures at foot but Mr Bimbi will always be with my in my heart of memories.
Celebrating a new year is something we all love to experience with friends and family, and the beginning of the Chinese New Year is one that we are more engaged with now as we have grown into a more multi-cultural society. The feng shui practitioners give us insights into the energetic frequencies that influence our lives. Some may think it is hocus pocus but I believe there is truth and wisdom in these teachings.
We have always been influenced by energetic frequencies and the Chinese feng shui readings for the year – which is related to an animal and physical elements earth water wood fire and metal is a long-time practice of reading these unseen energies. This is ancient wisdom that is being shared and therefore, worth taking note of if you want to have a happier and easier time during the year.
The year of the Tiger comes around 12-year cycles, and it is one to take notice as it brings with it transformation and change. Tiger energy will bring large energy shift and transformation – and this prediction is backed up with historical events from past cycles. AND this will include earth changes that will affect our planet such as earth quakes, floods and volcanic activity. 2022 is likely to bring bigger changes that we imagine.
So, get ready. I found this article online that talks about luck and bad luck. You might like to take a look. Most remedies can be made – so don’t feel like you have to go spending big money for the remedies suggested.
Never under estimate acts of kindness and friendship… especially in these time when many are separated by distance. Having a small keepsake that holds your energy and is a reminder of the love and friendship shared can be a real comfort in times of duress and lonliness.
Stay intouch with those you care about . If there is someone you love and have not connected in a while make the effort.
I was fortunate that my very dear friend Kez Wickham St George invited me to write a chapter for the anthology of women’s stories a sharing how life has coloured their lives and how they have healed and transforming tragedy, trauma and life’s unexpected challenges. I called my chapter – “Thriving – Moving Beyond Trauma“. I really wanted to share the wonder and joy of my life’s journey. Moving beyond the story of trauma to one of thriving, I share the journey I embarked on to heal and reclaim my life.
Healing and transformation can and does happen when you are committed to the pathway. My own journey has shaped my understanding and view of the world and redefined how I relate with others. Life is continually renewing itself offering opportunities to grow and expand.
It’s never too late to take back your power. Commit to developing the qualities and mindset of a winner and be alert, connected and responsive in everything you do, regardless of the situation.
Being true to your beliefs and living by your values is not always easy. It takes courage and conviction. To disagree with a stranger is not so difficult, however when it is a friend or family member it is more difficult. This is because you place value on their love and friendship and you may risk losing something if you do not agree or ally yourself with them. Not everyone is going to say nice things about you so it’s not surprising when people are mean about things. Your self-worth should involve more than just the opinions of others because all too often other people present themselves to be far more important than they actually are!
When someone is out of alignment with their core values, they give their power away.
When a person reacts negatively with anger or frustration, they give their power away. When blame is directed towards another the individual is allowing the other to shape their reality and responses in that moment through reactiveness. They have given away their power.
There are many ways we give away our power. Being popular isn’t everything. Be true to what makes you happy and don’t apologize for how you want to look, feel or act. Take time out of each day to make things happen for yourself by choosing not taking on anyone else’s problems as your own. Complaining all the time won’t help you achieve anything except getting stuck in a rut.
When you are in alignment with self you feel calm and life flows easily. You get more of what you desire.
Family trauma issues are often entrenched by the time you are a young adult – abandonment; emotional deprivation; unresolved anger; neglect; lack of personal boundaries, confusion; anxiety; guilt, shame; disassociation, depression; sleep disorder; mistrust; hypervigilance, night terrors; fragmented ethics and moral values; numbing out to life and denial; inability to communicate and function in relationships or to maintain friendships – which allows the child to become the target for bullying and abuse in the wider world. All the experiences in the larger world are compounded and reinforce all of the above family issues that have been internalised as a young child. It becomes the The Self Forfilling Prophecy.
The child’s psyche works hard to cultiavate a world view that is safe, blanking out what is too painful when faced with ongoing trauma – escaping into the world of fantasy is often a release. A child who lives with constant trauma will numb them self to the effects of trauma. This highly developed wall of protection can make the child even more vunerable. This is often evident when “unspeakable” things happen, the child seems to flow and go along with the situation, and even when questioned directly about the situation, would deny strongly and tell the concerned adult that everything was ok. So often help is not received and the child is not protected.
If you suspect a child is living in living in an abusive situation or is being neglected what would you do? Do you seek to find a non invasive way to respond to the situation? Do you go in hard and create more chaos ? Do you walk away and do nothing? Sadly more people than you imagine will choose the third option. The second most common response is the second senario and very few will seek to engage with the adults and child/children directly and offer their time and expression of concern.
Suspicion and gossip can be malicious and unfounded – so caution is always advised before diving into anothers affairs. this does not mean that when you witness bad behaviour you excuse it and turn you head the other ways and pretend that you did not see it. This can be an ethical dilemma.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
By Max Ehrmann 1927
This poem and Les Cranes version found its way into my life when I was 14 and it has remained with me all my life. The wisdom, compassion and love in these words touched something soul deep and I feel to share this with you all.
When you are stressed you are out of balance and this often manifests as resistance and reactive behaviour in your interactions with others.
When we feel that we have limited control over events in our life and things are not working for us, we try to make a correction to overcome what is causing us to be out of balance. Often those around us bare the brunt of temper and or resistance when they inquire about how we are going.
It may be there are competing needs and timelines that are clashing. This is the most common cause of stress. If you can minimise the clashes then there is less stress.
Common stressors are those deadlines – those jobs and tasks that we have been putting off because we had plenty of time before they were due… but now, when you check your diary – it is looming fast and you wonder what happened to all that time. I am sure that many of you can relate to this.
Plan for Success
Keeping a weekly diary can see tasks buried until we arrive at that week in real time. Planning ahead and prioritising your tasks can be helped by keeping a monthly or yearly planner. It helps to see what is coming up and enables you to plan your time more effectively.
Underestimating time can also be the cause of stress. It is always in your best interest to allow more time than you think you need for a job to allow for interruptions and unexpected delays to your schedule.
Finishing a job ahead of time gives you personal satisfaction and something to celebrate It feels great.