Author Archives: Jacquie Walker

An Ethical Dilemma – Children and Trauma

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An Ethical Dilemma – Children and Trauma

Family trauma issues are often entrenched by the time you are a young adult – abandonment; emotional deprivation; unresolved anger; neglect; lack of personal boundaries, confusion; anxiety; guilt,  shame; disassociation, depression; sleep disorder; mistrust; hypervigilance, night terrors; fragmented ethics and moral values; numbing out to life and denial; inability to communicate and function in relationships or to maintain friendships –  which allows the child to become the target for bullying and abuse in the wider world. All the experiences in the larger world are compounded and reinforce all of the above family issues that have been internalised as a young child.  It becomes the The Self Forfilling Prophecy. 

The child’s psyche works hard to cultiavate a world view that is safe, blanking out what is too painful when faced with ongoing trauma – escaping into the world of fantasy is often a release. A child who lives with constant trauma will numb them self to the effects of trauma. This highly developed wall of protection can make the child even more vunerable. This is often evident when “unspeakable” things happen, the child seems to flow and go along with the situation, and even when questioned directly about the situation, would deny strongly and tell the concerned adult that everything was ok. So often help is not received and the child is not protected. 

If you suspect a child is living in living in an abusive situation or is being neglected what would you do? Do you seek to find a non invasive way to respond to the situation? Do you go in hard and create more chaos ? Do you walk away and do nothing? Sadly more people than you imagine will choose the third option. The second most common response is the second senario and very few will seek to engage with the adults and child/children directly and offer their time and expression of concern.

Suspicion and gossip can be malicious and unfounded – so caution is always advised before diving into anothers affairs. this does not mean that when you witness bad behaviour you excuse it and turn you head the other ways and pretend that you did not see it. This can be an ethical dilemma.

A life changing poem – Desiderata

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A life changing poem – Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

By Max Ehrmann 1927

This poem and Les Cranes version found its way into my life when I was 14 and it has remained with me all my life. The wisdom, compassion and love in these words touched something soul deep and I feel to share this with you all.

love and blessings to all who find this

Jacquie

Green the Planet

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Green the Planet

Time to make changes

Time to rethink and motivate others

Connect to your voice

Time to voice your opinions 

Time to plant a tree

Time to plant many trees

Natural solutions are available to us right now

Do not wait for an Other to save us  because no one else is coming

You and I are the Ones of our time and we all have our part to play

Time to take action and be the change needed in the world

© Jacquie Walker

 

What are people talking about? Spiritual Awakening

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What are people talking about? Spiritual Awakening

Spiritual  Awakening – What do people mean when they talk about “Spiritual Awakening”? Is it the same as Spiritual Enlightenment?

 

An Awakening occurs when an individual transcends the confused and frightened self and leaves their ego at the door, becoming aware of their higher consciousness, living from a place of unconditional love, responding from a place of inner calm and love to others and life’s circumstances.

A spiritual Awakening should not be confused with “enlightenment”, that may be defined as an intellectual understanding of higher religious principals.

As you awaken and reach higher states of consciousness, you begin to own your power. You will find that your state of wellbeing is not affected by the actions of others – rather you will have an awareness and a considered response.

Joy to the World

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Joy to the World

 

 

 

 

 

 

wake up to wonder and joy within

live your joy today

open your heart to your loved ones

connect to the energy of the moment

rejoice in the innocence of the children

laugh at the antics of your neighbour’s dog

sing with the birds as dawn transforms darkness into light

 

live today as if it were your last

encourage someone who is feeling down

smile and share your inner being with another

open to receive love from those who love you

celebrate the joy of living in this moment

share your smile with a stranger

and tell that someone special in your life you love them

© Jacquie Walker 2019

Balancing Life’s Challenges

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What knocks you off BALANCE?

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When you are stressed you are out of balance and this often manifests as resistance and reactive behaviour in your interactions with others.

When we feel that we have limited control over events in our life and things are not working for us, we try to make a correction to overcome what is causing us to be out of balance. Often those around us bare the brunt of temper and or resistance when they inquire about how we are going.

It may be there are competing needs and timelines that are clashing. This is the most common cause of stress. If you can minimise the clashes then there is less stress.

Common stressors are those deadlines – those jobs and tasks that we have been putting off because we had plenty of time before they were due… but now, when you check your diary  – it is looming fast and you wonder what happened to all that time. I am sure that many of you can relate to this.

Plan for Success

Keeping a weekly diary can see tasks buried until we arrive at that week in real time. Planning ahead and prioritising your tasks can be helped by keeping a monthly or yearly planner. It helps to see what is coming up and enables you to plan your time more effectively.

Underestimating time can also be the cause of stress. It is always in your best interest to allow more time than you think you need for a job to allow for interruptions and unexpected delays to your schedule.

Finishing a job ahead of time gives you personal satisfaction and something to celebrate It feels great. 🙂

 

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Walk your talk and shine your light in the world

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Inspire

You have the right to be here.
You have the right to dream big.
You have the right to have success.
You have the right to be loved.
You have the right to shine your light brightly.
You have the right to celebrate and be celebrated.
You have the right to expect more than you can yet begin to imagine.

You are Unique and the is No one like you in the entire Universe.
Imagine and visualise the life you want and create it.

 

 

Are you an Empath?

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Are you an Empath?

Life is a journey of remembering and connecting with who we are. My own life was very confusing until one day someone asked me if I was an Empath – and guided me to find out more.

Do you crave to be alone and want to close down from all the “noise” around you? Do you need to just leave crowded spaces so you can breathe? Or when you are at a shopping centre do you feel like a weight is dragging you down and you begin to feel drowsy and feel the need to run? Do you sometimes identify with another’s pain and feel it so intensely that it feels like your own?  What you are experiencing may be an indicator that you are Empath.

If you are experiencing any of the above – know that you are not alone. There are 1000’s of people who feel this way.

Sometimes the energy that we walk into is just to much for us to handle. Some may say, ” Get over it”, but it but you know that it is not that simple.

“I just feel and know things  about people – and I can’t explain why!”

You might also know that you just know things about others that you can not explain. You might find that you have really strong reactions around certain people for no apparent reason.  Or you might find you are really drawn to make comment about something to someone you do not even know – but you are compelled and just have to voice the message you receive.

If you experience any of the above then you might like to read some more about what it means to be an Empath.

https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/traits-of-an-empath/

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/04/what-it-means-to-be-an-empath/

https://exemplore.com/paranormal/Psychism–7-Signs-Youre-an-Empath

If you want to ask more or share your experience leave a comment.

in love and friendship

 

 

 

 

Visioning the Future

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Visioning Future Pathways 

 

 

Dreaming, sharing and collaborating with others, sharing passion and vision for future pathways.

Find the way through the maze of confusion and create a blueprint for success.

Vision the way, and receive the tools to  create success in all areas of your life your through tapping into your heart centred consciousness.

If you are interested and would like more information then email me

jacquie@livingpathways.net or leave a comment